Flourishing with Sensory Processing Sensitivity
How To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Energy
HSPs frequently ask me how to protect themselves from other people’s energy. I always tell them that there is no quick and easy answer.
People are frequently looking for a shield or want to learn how to create an energy bubble. The truth is, if you know your own issues, then other people’s issues can’t stay attached to you, or not for long. You need to do your personal work.
For me, that personal work involved many years of therapy. I loved this process because as an HSP I enjoy looking inside and sorting out what I find. I had been depressed for most of my life until I took the time to go through this deep inner process that helped to clarify and reframe my issues and experiences. Out of that inner work I developed a deep capacity to protect myself through being centered in myself and therefore naturally knowing (or being able to sort out) what belongs to me and what belongs to someone else. I also grew to love myself and my sensitivity, as well as trust in my own heart to guide me.
Inner Work Will Help You To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Energy
Recently I saw an exceptional video by Ralph Smart on how to stop absorbing other people’s energy. Have a look!
He gave the best answer to “How to stop absorbing other people’s energy” that I have ever heard. I like his video because he doesn’t try to oversimplify the process, and yet gets right to the heart of the core issues involved, including loving yourself. And here is a summary of what Ralph has to say:
Remember you can’t please everyone. Accept that not everyone is going to like you. Once you get past that, then you can stop absorbing other people’s energy. It’s ok to be nice, but it’s more important to be yourself. Because you are loving and accepting yourself, you no longer need to constantly be looking for love and acceptance from others.
Invitation – Chose whether or not you want to be invited to where this person is going to take you. Nobody can enter your inner kingdom without an invitation. We attract every single person, consciously or unconsciously. We have the power to choose.
Do not pay attention to sources that drain your energy. “ Energy vampires”, people who act as a parasite and use your energy to survive, do not deserve your attention. When you pay attention, you are in essence giving someone your energy. Whatever you focus on grows. Are you focusing on what you want or on what you fear? Do not allow “emotional drive-by’s”– where people dump their energy on you and then go away feeling lighter, while you are left feeling heavy. Do not become a trash can for someone else. Love yourself and know your value. Give only when the exchange is good for all involved.
Breathe. This simple action can change everything and is so powerful. Go into nature – purify your senses. Feel alive, feel free. Meditate, dance, sing – purify the water within yourself. Speed your vibration. When your energy level becomes low or even stagnant, you are more likely to absorb other people’s energy.
Take responsibility for your inner condition. Take 100% responsibility – it’s not the other person’s problem. It is for you to take care of how you feel at any moment of the day.
These guidelines provided by Ralph are useful reminders for me each day as I go about life as a sensitive person. I use these five skills and continually sharpen my capacity to remain free from unwanted energetic influences. They are part of the basic skills needed to be an empowered HSP and to be at your best.
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